Mary O’Malley – At the beginning of a new year, we tend to get on the bandwagon of making ourselves be better or different than what we are. And yet the statistics show that this doesn’t work. People decide they’re going to lose weight, only to discover that they gain the weight back plus some. Gym memberships are up dramatically at the first of the year. And yet eventually most people stop going to the gym.
It is fascinating to me that in all our wanting ourselves to be better or different than what we are, we lose sight of the most powerful healing we can give ourselves: to accept our own selves as we are. Your mind may be resisting this because you, like most people, have been trained to live on the treadmill of feeling that you will be okay when you lose weight, or make more money, or find the perfect mate, and on and on and on.
Elizabeth Kubler Ross, author of the groundbreaking book on death and dying, once had a T-shirt made that said, “I’m not okay. You’re not okay. And that’s 0K!” What would happen if you understood that accepting yourself as you are is not a powerless place? In fact, it is one of the most empowering gifts you can give to yourself. And it is definitely not selfish, it is self-full.
What would happen if you understood that falling in love with yourself will not only bring more joy into your life, but also it will help heal the world? Or, as I said in a quote I posted on Facebook “Be kind with all that is unkind inside of you. This will help heal you, your loved ones and the world.”