I hear from thousands of people every week and many are wondering why so many relationships are ending right now, which includes those between friends, partners, spouses, and families. Someone wrote ‘Families are fracturing now’; another wrote ‘All of my friends are getting a divorce’ and asked “Are we heading into a time when we won’t have any more relationships?” Not at all. In fact, we are clearing the way so we can have soul-based instead of karma-based relationships. And although not all relationships are ending, many are coming up for review and they will either move forward in a very strong way, or they will end with closure and no more karma.
There was a time when honoring family ties was unquestionable and marriage lasted until death, no matter what happened behind closed doors. Times have changed and that’s good because some families and marriages are truly horrific. But these ties run deep, much deeper than we realize because they are based on karma and soul contracts, healing purposes, promises, and obligations that we have honored for many lifetimes. With the end of karma, which is one of the purposes and potentials of this lifetime, any relationship that is karma-based is now up for review and it can be released or start with a new energetic connection.
As much as we would all love to have the perfect family or marriage, very few people do but that depends on how you define ‘perfect’. I think we all want relationships with people who are loving, and who treat us with kindness and respect. Despite what we believe, the real purpose of family is to bring a soul group together in a way that encourages and facilitates healing, by creating such a powerful connection that healing must occur. With family we have many expectations of behavior and while everyone can choose to be kind, honest, and loving, some people don’t choose to do that. Then, because we have such strong expectations of what ‘family’ should be and do, that when they don’t do those things we believe there’s something wrong with us or that it’s our job to fix or heal them.
The same thing holds true for marriages or long term relationships of any kind, including relationships with our children (they have karma with us too). Many of our expectations are based on what we believe, based on the type of connection, rather than understanding the healing nature of karmic cycles. For example, because they’re my family they are supposed to be nice to me and love me. Or, because it’s my spouse I expect them to be loving, considerate, and faithful. Or friends are supposed to be considerate and supportive. Or I am supposed to have a loving, supportive, respectful, and connected relationship with my children (this is one of the tough ones and breakups are occurring between parents and children too).
But what brought us together was a shared karmic path and healing purpose, not a promise of ‘happily ever after’ with them. This doesn’t mean that all family ties and marriages need to end now. Rather, we have an opportunity to step away from the karma and set new standards of connection for ourselves. If we want to have relationships that are joyful, loving, respectful, kind, and fulfilling, we need to be connected with people who can embody those energies and not expect that because we have expectations of those behaviors from certain people based on a label that is attached to a connection.
It only takes one person’s willingness to move out of karma to end it and to create a new path for that relationship. If the other people involve agree, then a new paradigm is created and we can have ‘happily ever after’ with them. If not, then we get closure and release, and can set our sights on attracting people who can connect with us at the level we want. Wherever you identify a gap in your life (from last week’s message which you can read here), there is an opportunity for review, to set a new energy standard for that connection so it can be released or renewed at a new level.
We are approaching the final Uranus/Pluto square in March 2015 and, more importantly, the closure of a very long cycle for all of humanity, marked by March’s new and full moons, at 0 and 29.57 Pisces. This is the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end. We are the empowerment of the new age, of heaven on earth, of the new earth paradigms. It’s what we focus on now and the review and closure we do that will usher us into new paradigms of being and into relationships with higher frequency energy based soul families instead of karma based human families, and with partners who can join us in our wholeness instead of our healing, and who can love, honor, and respect us because they share our desire for those energies and are connected to us in that way.
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