Why Do People Play Games in Relationships?

gamesAletheia Luna – Whether consciously or unconsciously, whether at home, at work, among strangers, or among friends, we have all engaged in games that are sometimes beneficial and useful, and other times detrimental to our health and the well-being of others.

Psychological games are often rewarding to one party and harmful to the other, creating exhausting and messy dynamics in every kind of relationship. Sometimes we are so deeply ingrained in the cat-and-mouse games that define our relationships that we aren’t even aware of what is happening.

So why do people play games in relationships? And how can you identify whether you are instigating the games, or serving as the prey of them? (Or both?)

Exploring Psychological Theatrics

Why do people play games in relationships? The answer is quite simple: They get something out of it. Continue reading

Maintaining A Healthy Lifestyle Can Actually Be Fun

HealthyLivingBicyclePathTrees‘Health’ and ‘diet’ have become social buzzwords due to rising concerns over the number of individuals considered overweight or obese. This is primarily because obesity creates health risks that negatively impact one’s way of life. It can impact our ability to breathe easily and prevent us from undertaking any form of strenuous outdoor activity. That’s why it’s so important to consider changing daily routines and opting for a healthier lifestyle.

Being Focused Mentally Is A Great Help When Changing One’s Lifestyle

One of the main problems encountered when attempting to establish and maintain a healthier lifestyle is finding the mental strength to continue making the right choices with food and exercise on a regular basis. Reading helpful articles is a good way to get motivated to continue working towards personal goals. Just input the string “healthy living” into a search engine and you’ll discover many excellent blogs and websites that contain no fancy gimmicks or sales pitches, just sensible facts concerning weight loss and how to live a healthy life. Continue reading

How To Leap Onto The Playing Field Of Your Life

Jafree Ozwald May 25 2014

“If one desires a change, one must be that change before that change can take place.” ~Gita Bellin

PropellerWheelThere are at least four unique ways to participate in the game of life. Some people live their lives in the stands, eating their hotdogs, watching the game go by. They believe that life is a spectator sport, and thus they do the minimum to survive. The second category is players who sit on the sideline bench, hoping and believing that one day they will get to really play in the game. Yet, their shoes are still untied, and they are totally unprepared to jump on the field. The third group is composed of the players who are in action on the playing field, yet function like robots, unconsciously carrying out their coaches’ orders and commands. They follow all the rules of the game, and do exactly what they are told to do. Their lives are one big “should” waiting to implode.

The fourth group contains the most satisfied players of all. They are conscious, pro-active, inspired manifestors who design their own game and experience a succession of peak experiences during their time on the field. These beings are natural leaders who catalyze and inspire all the other teammates into inspired action. They bring creative thinking and “possibility consciousness” into the hearts and minds of each player. They have mastered the art of being present to the divine juiciness found within each moment of the game. Continue reading

Wisdom

Inspire Me Today

Out beyond ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field: I’ll meet you there. ~ Rumi

If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

There is a quote by the mystic poet Rumi that goes, “Out beyond ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field: I’ll meet you there.”

I am interested in that field. I am interested in the freedom of that open space. I want to breathe that oxygen. In it there is no fear or shame or guilt or the word “should.” It simply opens its spaciousness to us. Calls forth the possibility of what we can create there.

What do you create? I don’t mean the nouns of your life. I create books, for instance. Those are my “nouns.” But behind that, I create the intention to live at the intersection of heart and mind and craft that is writing. It’s the intention behind our thoughts and behavior and achievements which guides us.

What is your intention? Is your intention to be happy? As much as we are quick to say, “Of course I want to be happy,” I find that we tend to cling to our pain. That we dwell in the victim stance. And that we are daunted by Rumi’s field of freedom. Suffering becomes, in so many cases, our normal.

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