Jafree Ozwald | June 10 2012
“Immature love says, “I love because I need you”, while mature love says “I need you because I love you.” ~Unknown
You may have been fortunate enough to meet someone in life who constantly triggers you. Unknowingly they push some hidden secret button which instantly launches inside you a state of anger, hurt, blame or fear where you turn into a frightened little mouse or a fire breathing dragon. This person could be your best friend, your lover, your mom, dad, sister or brother or neighbor across the street. It could also be an impersonal figure on TV, a political party, a work competitor, or perhaps a group of unjustified “terrorists” you’ve never met in a country you’ve never visited. Anyone who can set you off balance where your sense of peace is instantly lost is your greatest teacher and has a powerful enlightening lesson to give you.
Perhaps you’ve heard of a man named Jesus who spoke many truths, one of them was learning how to love thy enemy. This may be the greatest challenge humanity has ever come across because we simply have forgotten one key ingredient. The essential purpose of this teaching is that you get to immediately be catapulted into your life’s highest vibration and consciousness. When you embrace that person which you absolutely cannot embrace, and love that part which is deeply unlovable, your life takes on a truly profound meaning and mission. You discover a freedom, a limitless joy, and a lightness inside you that cannot and will not ever be disturbed by anything or anyone.
The amount of energy you lose in hating, judging or resisting someone is extremely draining and unnecessary. Whatever you resist, persists. You always become that which you cannot embrace, so no matter how awful the person may be, that one little thing which you just cannot accept about them is the master over you. We create enemies in life because there is something inside of them which we should not, cannot, and absolutely will not own within ourselves. For example, if you are upset and often triggered by your partner because they are a control freak, you are rejecting some part of yourself, at some moment in your day where you’re not ok with having no control. Our issues are always in our tissues, and usually date back many lifetimes or perhaps as recent as your childhood dramas. They can be so ingrained that you may be willing to get divorced, fired, or even choose to leave the country instead of choosing to have compassion for this person and change your reaction to come from love.