Give Yourself a Three-Minute Gift

Stories Mary O’Malley – Have you ever noticed there is a voice in your head that talks all day long? It likes this, but not that. It plans, resists, wants, judges, fears and basically just struggles with Life. Every person has a storyteller, and most people think they are the stories in their heads. Whatever it says is what we buy into “hook, line, and sinker.” These endless stories keep us caught in our heads, separating us from Life.

I love Pema Chödrön’s definition of enlightenment: “Relaxing into life.” Your storyteller doesn’t do anything close to relaxing. It is always busy controlling, fixing, changing, and rearranging everything. The first step of awakening is realizing you have a storyteller in your mind. The next step is understanding that the stories are not who you are. You are that which can see the stories. Right now, you believe whatever your thoughts say to be true. If a thought says you are angry, you believe you are angry. If a thought says you are sad, you believe you are sad. As you learn to become aware of your storyteller rather than identifying with it, the clouds of thought in your mind begin to clear and you rediscover the joy of being present for Life.

I was raised in great fear and it became a constant state of dread. I tried to eat it away, drink it away, numb it away with drugs, and even tried “doing time” in a mental hospital, but nothing worked. In desperation, I attempted to take my own life three times to try to get away from this horrible feeling of dread. The stories fueling the fear and dread convinced me that I was completely defective and that I was less than everyone else on the planet. Now the stories in my mind live most of the time in the spaciousness of my heart. Continue reading

Story About Stories

Pavithra – We have been born into a world of stories. There are millions of stories we believe in either knowingly or unknowingly. There are stories that were believed by us at this incarnation, by our ancestors, by the race, by the planetary group consciousness, by the galactic consciousness, and so on. Which means it is in the blood and DNA of the people, in the storiesplanetary mind, and in the hidden ancient history stored within us, telling our being these tales. Without our knowing many of these stories are being believed by our huge multidimensional body and the minds of each of those levels.

Since we have been born we always want to believe in something, to learn to understand what all this is about, this existence. To do this we believed in stories past down from the people as true and all the new information that has been revealed to make us more aware of this existence, such as scientific, religious, political, history, culture, etc..

It becomes our reality

As we believe in them they become our reality and part of us. We plug in to those stories and if there are roles in them then we are connected to them as well, based on what we believe in. Then the person begins to play a role that they believe in which they agreed to within the context of the story. To go with the role, the person gets the costumes to wear as well. The necessary plug ins come with it or our mind creates them for us to make them real. Now you are in the story and the story changes you. Not the other way around.

Religious influence

If the religion you believe in has thousands of demi-gods and you are believing in those stories and their heavens and hells and so on, then guess what? This becomes your reality plus the planetary effect that comes with it. Belief is extremely important to each human because it becomes your truth; that is what you are living in because that is how your brain and your consciousness decides what to manifest in your reality. Continue reading

Stories In Your Head – When They Help and When They Don’t

storiesThe stories we have about one another can be dangerous. Many of these stories are generated by emotional triggers, which generate our beliefs, causing us to bias our view and twist information to support our bias. Or, we just conveniently miss what is communicated, or assume we know what is meant by something someone else says or does, when in fact, something completely different has been communicated in plain English (or whatever language we understand best on a given day). What’s worse is that we then act on our beliefs and the emotions generated by them, often doing harm.

We also create beliefs and generate emotions based on our stories. We need good thinking to separate the logistical facts of a situation from our reactions, beliefs, and stories about one another. Without this critical thinking, and without the skills and tools to consciously process our emotions so that our thinking can remain relatively clean and free from constant unconscious emotional bias, we can end up in a tangled mess in which we can’t see or hear what is really going on outside the stories in our head and the reactions in our body.

Because our emotional reactions themselves are often based in getting the facts wrong (either deliberately or through innocent misunderstanding), we have to be astute to think well, to inquire with other and ourselves. I discuss this at length in my essay “Re-Thinking Love: Why Our Hearts Must Also Be Minded.” For example, say I believe that my girlfriend doesn’t want to go out to dinner with me (due to whatever stories and past hurts I unwittingly still carry), and I conclude that she is selfish and thereby I treat her poorly, and even justify doing so. Even though she tells me she is just tired, I don’t register this truth and decide that it’s not for this reason. What I have effectively done is risk living in disaccord with reality, acting unfairly to my partner, and adding to the bad story in my head. Continue reading