Separated thinking

When coming from a place of separated thinking our main focus is to avoid the fear that is within us that is screaming and wanting to belong to something, wanting to be re-connected to the oneness that we were once part of so that we can feel that comfort that we had before. This is hidden within our being somewhere and we are not aware of this so our main focus is always to avoid this fear.

Our cultures, family and all the people around us are built on this mindset and we are not aware of this thinking until something really forces us to look at it, even then we will make up some excuse to blame others for our issue and not face it. We must take responsibility!

Most of our relationships are based on this fear and often we don’t look at it this way because we are not aware of it. For us it is normal to have family and friends as support systems to keep us going. If we observe we can see that most of the relationships that we have are based on conditional love as there is a part of us that is scared to fully love and are living in fear. There is a resistance within.

Same pattern comes up with financial success which is there to get us going in this world, to provide for our life. But for us it does more than that, it keeps us safe and the fear of security is reduced to a lower level when we have money with us. When there is money we don’t feel the survival fear and that fear is covered up by money and the materialistic lifestyles we are living.

This compensates for the emptiness and loneliness many of us feel these days due to our disconnection from spirit. This seems to be high in the western world as people there seems to be more and more focused on the materialistic way of life and feeling the disconnection from nature and spirit more than others but this is not just a problem for the west, it is something that has spread across the globe due to many reasons.

When we are threatened or dismantled to a level where we do not have anything and are being asked to look at our fears, this is a scary place to be in. If our relationship with family or partner is based on fear at any level where the survival or dependency is placed then when things gets shaken we can really see the cracks in our unconscious thinking patterns.

This is a good time to pay attention and be observant. These are all stemming from the separated mindset that continues to bring in fear and survival behind the scene and we have been unconscious participants to these fears all of our lives.

Mind-made fantasies

We can also see why the concepts, like family, is so important or the obligation to get marry and have a family or get a good job and make money is pushed when we grow up. This is how the system works, all we do is pick up a mind-made set of patterns, a lifestyle our families and society have been keeping for many generations. We see this in movies and fantasy stories as they promote that this is the way to live your life. These are all mind-made fantasy worlds that we live in.

Find the love of your life and be happy have a family and you are set for life. There is a fantasy that is built in to everything; there is a rosiness and comfort in them and we continue to seek these kinds of relationships and way of life as that feels safe and secure and comforting and the hidden survival and fear begins to dissipate when we have these fantasy lives.

But when we don’t get this type of fantasy that’s in our head with relationships we are in or with our families then we get disappointed and want to find it somewhere else or create it with anyone we can find. This is how we are all trained. If we observe we begin to understand that all of this is in our heads. We have created mind-made realities and expect things to match that reality and when things are not matching this reality. We get confused so we resist what is creating conflicts within.

Without understanding this truth, however, we try to make it work, somehow or other, we are continually disappointed by the relationships and the things in our life as they do not fulfill these fantasy stories that we have in our heads.

It’s a trap!

Many do not see this as a trap as this is so deeply built in as part of the materialistic world way of life where if you can’t get it from here then you can get it from somewhere else concept is so common among the people.

Also if you have money some of these fantasies can come true to a limit but the trick is sometimes even with money the rosy world we created in our heads does not come to life. All this is confusing to us as we can’t understand why after all this hard work and continuous hard work we cannot manifest what we want.

The real question that we have to ask is “Is this really what I want? and What is the underline reason for my fantasies? Where do they come from? and What is the cause of all this?”.

Spirit urges us to see the truth

If we are on a spiritual path we might begin to notice that some of these mind-based expectations or distorted ways do not serve our spirit guided life anymore and we begin to notice the pressure to change the way we are looking at the world.

We need to look at the words like “job”, “family” , “partner”, etc. and look at our perception of them and what expectations are. Are they part of our fantasy world in our head? Where is the materialistic survival thinking and where is the spirit-driven freedom thinking?. If we are still in the fear based thinking where we think we cannot live without them, they are the support system, we depend on them and if we let them go what will happen to us? At this point we are still holding the fear within us and we need to pay attention.

Looking at nature for answers

We are all part of the oneness, if we observe nature we can see how nature takes care of itself. For a plant, in the morning there is sunshine and the ground provides for the nutrients and water and the wind brings in moisture and whatever it needs.

In time the rain comes to nourish the plant and the ground so there is enough water to keep it going. It lives in prosperity and abundance. It either grows old and dies or there will be a natural event where it will be taken out. It’s part of the ways of nature and everything in nature surrenders to these cycles.

For us to be free from the fear of survival and security we need to dig deeper and witness the fear that is stemming from the separated thinking then we know the cause for our fears with this truth we can begin to let go of the fears and surrender to what is and to the oneness that’s within and around us.

Oneness is the answer

If we can give ourselves to the oneness without any conditions then the natural flow of nature can take care of us as it takes care of the rest of creation. When surrender happens we release the barriers that we were holding within that are keeping us away from the natural flow. This takes great courage as well as trust in the unknown.

We feel vulnerable when we are in a place like that and part of us wants to deny this truth and wants to go and do something to make this better but there is no other way to find true freedom. We cannot find true freedom from this fear in something or someone outside of ourselves. If we think we find it, then we are lying to ourselves as we know that it is not permanent and we find ourselves continuing to worry when it might be taken away from us. If we are true to ourselves then we will notice the nudge from our spirit to take this path of surrender. To give up the resistance to what is.

Finding allies

But when we are in a space of fear that nudge does not get heard that loud so we begin to look for ways to get out of this mess that we are in. We try to find something that might cover up the pain and fear and we might even look for advice from outside sources like friends or family that are not aware of this spiritual process and they would likely be telling us to get out of it.

Find a way to be free from all of this, as this is nonsense who will be in the right frame of mind to think like that to let go of their job or their security or life that they have? This is all good advice for that part of us that is scared and wants a support system to sustain the lie it is living, which is mainly its survival.

Now that we observe this situation, we can see the ego part of us: the part that is patriotic which hold coldness and lacks love, compassion and understanding and thinks only from the head and it uses emotions to fight for its survival and so uses anything, anyone, or any excuse to keep it alive.

Dismantling the head-based thinking

If you are going through a dismantling process then the spirit part is louder and pressing hard on you and most of the avenues you are taking to escape from facing this truth is not working for you anymore and what you are doing is not working as you wanted. Things are hard to manifest and you are confused and desperate and fear begins to take control of you.

Know that at this time your eternal spirit has got you cornered and is forcing you to make a decision, to see the truth and face the fear deep within you that is taking you away from your true freedom. Not the false freedom that you seek through mind-made fantasies and dramas, but the real freedom which gives freedom from the inner fears that suppress us and get us going on automatic through all our lives.

Before this surrender happens, this becomes an extremely hard place for a person to be in and this also can become a humbling experience which could bring them more closer to themselves and to their hearts. This leads to reveal the coldness the person was holding and through compassion and humility the heart begins to open and love begins to flow, neutralizing the coldness within.

At this stage the person will feel a mini death as the ego, the imposter pretending to be us is dying and it does not like this so it will fight and try to destroy what it can. So be aware of this as it is dying. This is true freedom for a person and that cannot be taken away from us and when we are there our fears of ‘what ifs’ begins to fade.

Looking at head and heart-based cultures

There are cultures that are heart-based that live from passion and then there are cultures that are head-based that live mental constructed lifestyles. Both parties are imbalanced as there is a disconnection between the head and the heart. Without that connection both parties feel that there is something missing within.

Some of the mental concepts and way of life are so common among us and we think that these rules and conditions and boundaries are there to support us and to bring us order but if we dig deep we can see that they are making us more rigid and might be hindering us from expressing our true potential as a spiritual being in human form.

Conditioned lifestyles?

Let’s look at a simple thing: in some cultures it is considered proper and polite to say thank you, excuse me, can I do this or that etc., to each other and if that is not followed the person is considered rude and inconsiderate of others. Whoever does this is not well received and considered wild or something is wrong with that person. There is a rigidity that asks that things must be this way and no bending from it is allowed and if you are behaving differently from these conditions you are not part of the group or us.

Questions asked

When we notice this, we have to ask a question, What is the reason for us to expect the other person to behave this way? In some cultures these rules and concepts are not being used that much. Conversation within a group is done without a single pause where the person might not stop to say excuse me can I say something or sorry can you pass that dish. From one point of view, there are many interruptions during a conversation where one person can barge in and start to add something or the conversation moves from one area to another or someone joins in and interrupts the whole thing.

Some might ask, Why do these people act like this? Why don’t they make a polite gesture instead of just behaving like this? What can be the reason behind this? What if the reason for this is that they don’t feel a separation from each other, where for them my house is your house, my food is your food etc., is something that is a known within and they live with that feeling so their actions bring it in every time.

They don’t have to stop and think that the other is separate from them and I must stop and ask them for this or that. What if this concept is something that they don’t understand and for them there are no boundaries to their expression among themselves so they feel free to express themselves with their heart and emotions?

Fusion in the interactions

When they live their lives this way, there is a fusion and there is this fire and passion that comes out of it. There is an unrestricted flow where the spirit flows through them in to their actions and words and from that their hearts get activated and begin to fuel the action or the words; there is a celebration between the spirit and the flesh.  Continue reading . . .

Pavithra is a Contributing Writer for Shift Frequency

SF Source Star Crystal Portal  Dec 2015