The Best Friend Ever

maryMary O’Malley – I don’t know what I would’ve done over the years without my friends, the people whom I could be completely real with and together share life’s joys and pains. And research has now shown that with good friends, we actually live longer.

But there is another friend we have searched for our whole life and have rarely found. And that is becoming our own best friend. We are much more skilled in being a friend to our friends than we are at being a friend to ourselves.  In fact, we are skilled in being the opposite. If you were sitting in a restaurant and a person in the booth behind you was saying the same things, which you sometimes say to yourself, you would get up and leave! Continue reading “The Best Friend Ever”

Can Kind, Loving Thoughts Slow the Biological Aging Process?

kindnessNikki Harper – We all know that kindness and compassion are good things, and most of us probably try to be kind and compassionate whenever possible. But what if the focused intent behind kind and loving thoughts could actually benefit your physical health as well as your psychological wellbeing?

A recent study from the University of North Carolina suggests exactly this. The study, published this spring in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology, found that regular practice of Loving Kindness Meditation appears to slow down the rate of attrition in telomeres, which are a vital part of the biological aging process. [1] Continue reading “Can Kind, Loving Thoughts Slow the Biological Aging Process?”

Selfish or Self-Full

maryMary O’Malley – Most of the time growing up, I lived in the same bedroom with an older sister who I experienced as a bully. She let me know through her words and actions that I was a bother, that I was less than her and my needs didn’t matter.

I have healed most of the stories I took on while undergoing that kind of daily heartache and pressure.  One of the core ones was that I was less than everybody else. I now know I’m not less than nor am I better than anybody else. I am simply who I am and that is enough.

Another deep wound I took on during that time was that I was stupid. I had a B+ average in high school but she was salutatorian of her high school class and graduated summa cum laude from college. With those kinds of accomplishments, she let me know over and over again that I was not her equal. And I’m not. I don’t have the academic intelligence she has but I finally realized I carried the kind of intelligence that truly makes a difference in life and that my intelligence is heart savvy. Continue reading “Selfish or Self-Full”

Be kind

kindThe Angels – Be kind to one another. Mother Earth is in need. She can withstand pollution, drilling, and all manner of ills. She puts up with these things in the same way a human mother allows her little children to make a mess of her living room. With the help of inspired humans she can clean up these problems.

However, the one thing that hurts her heart is the divisiveness in the hearts of human beings. Continue reading “Be kind”

Kindness for You

kindnessMary O’Malley – We have been exploring the many faces of kindness for it is what will guide us through this time of chaos. This urge toward kindness has been nestled in the heart of every religion, oftentimes showing up as the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

I was once at a retreat center where there was a huge poster on the wall and the Golden Rule was written in the language of all the great religions. It touched me deeply. If you Google it, you will see that the first record of the golden rule was in 2040 BC! And yet it’s only now gaining a lasting foothold in so many people’s lives. Continue reading “Kindness for You”