Dana Mrkich – If your life was a building, with every floor representing a certain emotion that you end up feeling time and again, which floor do you end up spending the most time on?

There is a ‘set-point’ theory that states we all have certain conditions we naturally revert back to despite any actions we take or dreams we have to change those conditions. Thus it’s often the case that the billionaire who goes bankrupt will end up a billionaire again. The person who has spent a lifetime, and generations, in financial hardship, will commonly end up with no money again years after winning the lottery. A person often goes back to the same weight range repeatedly regardless of what they eat.

So too, if we are used to feeling disappointed, rejected or unsupported we will regularly re-invite that emotion into our life. Our eyes may be firmly fixed on an experience we want that exists on the penthouse level. We may even manage to get our lift to take us up there, and mingle in that environment for some time. However, if our emotional set-point is still anchored in some deep-rooted floor below, that anchor will yank us back down, making it hard to achieve, or maintain, our penthouse dreams and desires.

It was a bit of a depressing thought for set-point theorists to think that we can’t change our set-point lot in life, BUT studies AND lots of people’s experiences are showing that in fact we CAN change our set-points. Continue reading →