Lena Stevens – Following on the heels of October’s theme of “Rewriting the Story”, “Proactive Change” supports the action step important for any intention, desire, or dream. Although there is still plenty of emotional work to do this month, the focus is on how we can show up from a place of inner choice that is ours alone and free of outside influences, pressures and imprinting. If you don’t feel quite done with “rewriting your story” it is because you are still in process with it and this is the next chapter.
It is indeed a time to stop complaining about how difficult and challenging the last few weeks have been, and get a bit ruthless about what you intend to change. This is not a passive time. Even the climate that promotes self-observation and emotional reset is an active one as it demands a choice and a direction at the end.
Being proactive means choosing change, choosing to say yes or no, choosing to receive, choosing your attitude for the day, choosing acceptance of what is not yours to change, and choosing to be creative and expressive from something inside of you, your unique and personal signature, instead of an outside influence or pressure.
One of the enemies of proactive change is procrastination. When you procrastinate you do so out of resistance to being proactive. The more you procrastinate the more vulnerable you are to the passive state that allows for a less than desirable outcome. So, if you are procrastinating a task, a communication or a decision, don’t wait. Do it now or release it for good.
Ambivalence is what often feeds procrastination. Not knowing what you want or what to choose is the product of giving your power away over and over again to outside influences that feed you information and program you to make certain choices and to strive for a certain way of life.
If you find yourself ambivalent and not able to choose or make a decision, it is best to simply leave it alone until there is clarity, or to go ahead and make a choice without fear or regret. You can always change your choice. Staying in the place of ambivalence will keep you stuck with the energy not moving. Don’t wait for someone else to give you permission to change. Give yourself permission.
Your comfort level is often based on a false picture of what will make you happy or what it is that you absolutely need in order to have a purposeful life on this planet. The deep emotional exploration fueled by this time of self-observation should uncover certain truths about where you have been blinded by outside influences and have not listened to your inner voice and intuition. Being proactive is to begin to reject and set boundaries against that which is not of your personal inner truth. Others may react negatively but that is their own fear of change.
This will continue to be a challenging time. Whining and complaining will not help. You can express your frustration, even anger. But those energies should quickly be turned towards action, not against a person, situation or event, but towards a personal goal. If you don’t have clarity about an intention or goal, take some action that will move the energy in a positive direction. We always have something that could use cleaning, reorganizing and upgrading.
Change always requires a time of chaos during the transition from an old situation to a new one. Think of a remodel or a physical move or a change of work or even a relationship. Chaos is necessary and should be welcomed as a sign that change is in process. If you resist chaos, you are resisting change. And if you resist change, you put yourself in a passive position where you have no power.
There is a fine line between allowing the flow of right timing, helpful support, and unpredictable positive opportunities, and being too rigid in your attachment to your picture of how change should happen. Sometimes the proactive way is to be attentive to what is showing up and then being able to choose yes or no to the opportunity. In order to have clarity, you need to know what you want. In order to really know what you want, you need to examine your own truth about what you need.
It is possible this month to reset your priorities, putting yourself first as you examine what truly gives you comfort. Anything that does not feel right should be subject to change. You have to consider yourself first even if it causes disruption and inconvenience to others. If you continue to base your life on what other people need, you will never create the changes you need for yourself. Putting yourself first takes courage and being a bit ruthless. However, if you can be proactive in this way, you will be surprised at how others will accommodate the change.
All you women out there: Check out our November special. The Women’s Shamanic Coaching 12 session course is discounted and launching on November 14 with a webinar setting the tone and the container to work with the energies and themes of these times. An excellent support for those rewriting their story and wanting to anchor proactive change. (link here)
How the month shows up
This is a time for you. You get to focus on yourself and your needs using discipline to keep from getting distracted by other people’s drama and situations you have no control over. While being compassionate towards others, you will need to differentiate between what is yours and what is not. Remember you cannot take on someone else’s suffering, healing, choices, pain, confusion or growth. You cannot “digest” what is not yours.
SF Source The Power Path Nov 2019